“Mothers shouldn’t feel guilty about choosing themselves and doing what they need to do” Simi reacts to Chimamanda’s conversation about the “cost” of motherhood

Simi reacted to Chimamanda Adichie’s talk about the cost of motherhood.

The singer said she identifies with Chimamanda’s experience of motherhood.

In an interview with the BBC, Chimamanda said that motherhood is a “glorious gift”, although it comes at a “cost”. She also talked about “brain freeze” and the loss of creativity that comes with pregnancy (read here). She added that she probably would have written two more novels if she hadn’t had a child.

Reacting, Simi said women should be given grace because motherhood is not easy.

Simi wrote: “She captured this so beautifully. I remember my creative brain also froze when she was pregnant. This shocked me haha. I’ve never felt anything like this before.

“Every mother’s journey is different. Some are happy to “lose” whatever they lose. For others, it’s a bit much. Your only role is to support her, not judge her experience.

“I hope we can actually see more mothers and not just cute babies. Moms shouldn’t feel guilty for sometimes choosing themselves and doing what they need to do to be the kind of mom they need to be. Because, believe me, most of the time, they have to choose someone else.

“Many mothers are struggling with depression and cannot talk about it because they are afraid of being judged as a bad mother. You’re not a bad mother. You are a person. And you deserved to be seen.

“Lastly, in my opinion, saying “take all your kids and get this out of the way” is a very careless thing to say. Kids aren’t out of the way – unless you’re not actually planning on raising them.

She concluded with “prayers and love to the TTC (trying to get pregnant) women.” I see you too.”

Simi also shared messages she received from other mothers who shared their motherhood experience, including one who said she wouldn’t recommend motherhood and another who said she has no intention of having a second child due to her experience.

See below.

Source: www.lindaikejisblog.com

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